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When Your Friend’s Date Is a Total Trainwreck (You Won’t Believe These Stories!)
Hey, want to hear some wild stories about those moments when your friend starts dating someone who’s... well, a nightmare? We’re diving into tales of cringe-worthy, downright bonkers relationships that left people scratching their heads and shouting "RUN!" Let’s jump right in!
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Watched my best friend's wife (thankfully now ex) tear him down bit by bit. It was awful to see. I spoke up about how bad it looked and we stopped talking for a while because of it. Years later, they split and he admitted, "You were the only one telling me to bail, and I pushed you away." Glad he finally saw the light.
She swooped in, claimed his spare room as her music den, then turned his garage into a yoga studio - even though she never did yoga! She took over his car but wouldn’t lend hers. He got ONE drink on nights out, but she got plastered. Oh, and she crashed his car while street-racing and he still forgave her. Lasted less than a year - she dumped him because he turned 36 and she only dates 35-year-olds. Talk about picky!
My best friend's boyfriend? Total POS. Started hitting her almost immediately, drove her car into the ground, gave her herpes, ran up cellphone bills in her name... and yet she couldn’t leave. There was even a public strangling at a dance! Somehow, girls after her kept getting with this nightmare. Insanity.
Listen, getting out of a toxic relationship is tough. And it’s way easier to judge from the sidelines than live through the drama. Sometimes, love makes us blind to all the flashing big red flags waving in the wind.
It’s hard to hear bad things about someone you like. You want to protect your friend and maybe even defend their choices. But if those warning lights keep flashing and you ignore them, it’s like wasting time on a sinking ship with someone who’s bad news.
And not all red flags wave loudly! So don’t beat yourself up for missing some sneaky ones.
Some classic toxic vibes include: no respect, crazy jealousy, controlling moves, lying, resentment, nonstop stress, and totally ignoring what you want.
This "friend" dates guys nobody likes, just for the chaos. She storms off when we skip double dates, drags these guys to parties just to make out in the corner, then flips out when we don’t vibe with them. She's even lied to me about having an eating disorder to get sympathy (and I’ve dealt with that!). Yeah, she’s a walking drama factory.
She just claimed his house and started calling it "her" place. Brought over her dad and they remodeled parts without telling him. Moved his art studio to the basement and installed random stuff for her own use. He had to pay emergency electrician fees when she got mad about the setup. He finally saw the light - after two kids and quitting his dream job. Oof.
We planned a chill weekend trip, but her BF went off the rails, yelling and threatening to drive 300kms to get her. She didn’t break up. Later, at a bar, he showed up wasted, demanded she leave with him, got aggressive, and she still stuck it out. Now they’re even house hunting. No words.
“Good relationships are about cheering each other on,” says expert Carla Marie Manly, PhD. If your partner only cares about their own stuff and makes you feel like an afterthought, alarm bells should start blaring.
Does your partner constantly want to know where you are and who you’re with? Are they throwing a fit if you don’t reply right away? Or worse, hiding where they’re off to and with whom? Neither is cool.
Everyone deserves some privacy in relationships, but secrets and controlling vibes are big no-nos.
She got knocked up by a guy who had more charges than a cash register. Despite his violent streak and prison stays, she wanted to marry him and drop out of college. Good luck with that, babe. He cheated post-prison again, she finally dumped him but still posts love-hate nonsense online. We all saw it coming except her.
He’s the puppet; she’s the puppet master. His life? Her schedule. His paycheck? Her shopping spree. He gave up hunting and fishing because it’s "cruel" - but she’s not a vegetarian! He’s got to reply to texts ASAP or else. She buys a new car right after draining their joint money, then jets off on a fancy vacation. He’s miserable and aging fast, but try talking him out of it: instant rage and rudeness. Yikes.
My military buddy dated a woman with four kids from three dads. After just six months dating, they got engaged! Everyone at the wedding was shouting "Run!" but he went ahead anyway. She pushed him to adopt her oldest kid and then turned on him, raging all the time. Divorce came 14 months later. He paid child support for 10+ years while the grandparents raised the kid. Oof.
So who’s the absolute worst someone’s friend ever dated? How bad did it get? Did anyone manage to break through to them? Or switch roles - has a friend tried to warn you about a bad apple? What happened? Let’s chat about these messes below!
Friend got a girlfriend after a long solo run. Turns out she’s a ticking time bomb - smashing his Xbox over his head, burning his clothes, wrecking furniture. He cried, we held him, he kept making excuses. Then she beat him up, robbed him, trashed his place again. Friends helped him bounce back, but guess who won the 'sweet talk your way back in' award? Yep, her. "It’s really good when it’s good," he says. Uh huh, sure.
This guy fell head-over-heels for a girl who still sucked her thumb for comfort - 25 years old! Everyone warned him she wasn’t wife material, even his dad said, a week before the wedding, it’s not too late to bail. But he went through with it, thinking love fixes all. Two weeks in, even his buddies told him they never wanted to see her again. Took two years for him to admit he married a selfish, immature nightmare.
Not exactly your typical story - the friend in trouble? Me. My ex-wife hosted dinners where she'd cook like a pro and whisper about her cheating escapades with multiple guys. One friend tried to warn me through these dinners, but I was clueless until we split. Talk about a slow reveal.
College year one, my buddy brings home a girl that looked fine but I wasn’t buying it. Told him straight up she wasn’t good for him. She moved in, controlled his every move, and then started telling us we spent too much time with him. When he finally dumped her a year later, he told us he loved me for being the voice of reason. Glad he figured it out.
My best friend fell for an ultra-Christian, anti-vax, California-rich girl who acted like a total goblin. She made him pay for every trip, blamed him for everything, and banned hunting and fishing because “it’s cruel.” They fight nonstop but he’s stuck, thinking it’s too late to quit after 4 years. Yikes.
They broke up and got back together 11 times - I wasn’t making that up! Finally, breakup #12 happened when she took a trip and posted pics with the dude she was cheating with. Talk about a messy rollercoaster.
My buddy wanted to escape his terrible job for a sweet 6-figure gig out-of-state. She vetoed it, so he took a slightly better prison job nearby. When they found out they were having a boy, he wanted to name him “My Buddy III” and she shut that down fast. They’re married now and I barely see him - but the struggle is real.
He boasted, "I could tell her 2 + 2 = 5 and she’d believe it." None of her friends really like him. I barely see them anymore, but yeah, he’s not my favorite guy. Not the well-explained story, but there you have it.
Friend dated a girl off and on for 10 years. Every breakup revealed cheating or boredom on her part. We dumped on him, not her. Then, after I vanished for a year, I come back to hear she dumped him again - turns out, caught in a hot tub with another dude and she threw his engagement ring back at him. Poor guy. Luckily, she’s running out of options and back with him - for now.
Moved in with a friend, and her BF visited. Too drunk, started yelling her leg looked "disgusting" - she has a genetic condition. Heard all the insults and the push when she blocked the door. He ignored her apology and refused to talk for two weeks. She says he always screams over nothing, but she defends him. She confronted him and he apologized - that’s progress, maybe? Fingers crossed she’s safe.
My twin sister dated a guy for 11 years. He was a serial liar, chronic no-show, and had multiple DUIs. I warned her over and over, but she married him anyway. Divorce happened, and surprise! He was cheating and driving drunk the whole time. She paid in stress and health for years. Lesson? Don’t ignore the red flags.
He seemed charming until you saw the drinking. Only drank at events involving alcohol - and plenty of it. Kept a hidden vodka bottle in his truck for sneaky swigs. Showed up looking fine, then got loud and slurring fast. Every time there was booze, it turned into a race to get his share first. After six months, she finally dumped him. Smart move.
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