Oh No, These Boyfriends Totally Nailed The Worst Award

I (22F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for 2 years, and he’s done this weird fake choking thing about 5 times—like pretending to choke just to see if I care. It’s always been super obvious he’s faking, and I just laughed it off thinking it was a joke. He’d get a little annoyed but shrug it off.

But earlier today he did it again, and this time I didn’t react. He got upset and we argued. He now thinks if he was really choking, I wouldn’t care and would just let him die. Obviously, I would care! In a real emergency, I’d act fast and make sure he’s okay. I tried explaining this but combined with ignoring his fake choking, he just doesn’t believe me anymore.

Honestly, it reminds me of toddlers faking drowning for attention. It feels immature and weird. Even if I played along, I’d be faking it too, so what’s the point?

AITA for not taking his fake choking seriously?

I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for almost 3 years. We live together, our families know each other—you know, couple stuff. Went to his work event recently, and when a coworker asked who I was, he said, “Oh, that’s my roommate.” I laughed thinking it was a joke. Nope. He said he doesn’t like his work knowing his personal stuff.

The next weekend? Same thing again. Now everyone at his work thinks he’s single! I asked him why he even brings me if he’s gonna pretend I’m just a roommate splitting rent. He got annoyed and said I’m overthinking and causing drama.

I’m not asking for "love of his life" intro, but three years together and being called his roommate in front of everyone? That stings.

Am I dramatic or is this weird AF?

Me (24F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for almost 3 years. While I was earning a master’s in criminal justice, he missed my graduation because he was wiped out after a 12-hour night shift. We moved past that. But the other night at dinner, I found out he thought my master’s degree was just my bachelor’s in psychology. Then, shocker, he didn’t even know I had a master's!

I got quiet and started crying on the way home. He asked why and started yelling that I never told him I was working on a master's, which is BS because I tell anyone who’ll listen! I tried to explain how proud I am of my degrees but he just got mean. Then he apologized quietly and acted like I was the problem the next day.

I’m ready to break up. AITA for being upset about him forgetting my degree?

I’m heartbroken. We’ve been together a year, living in nearby towns. He said he was broken up with his ex, and we shared so many moments—the good, the bad, even planned a wedding and a home. I helped him through so much.

I asked him to block her because it made me uneasy, but she kept coming back. Then I found out she was unblocked and sent me pictures of them, their daughter, everything. She made me feel used and pathetic. I confronted him, and he said, “Don’t look for me anymore,” no apology or anything.

My boyfriend jokes about women a lot—like, how we didn’t have rights and other basic stuff. He even said all women are b****es and that it’s okay because rappers say it all the time. I told him to stop because it’s disrespectful. He’s shown he disrespects me before—recording me without telling me and removing a condom without asking. I brought this up, and he got mad and said I’m overreacting.

I just don’t get comfortable being with someone who jokes like that. AITA for telling him off and thinking about leaving? I want respect, not jokes at my expense.

My boyfriend (42M) proposed to me (32F) in front of my mom but told me not to tell anyone. Then he took the ring back a day later, saying he hadn’t thought things through and that my "socioeconomic status" was too low. Apparently, he wants more cultured, educated friends.

We’ve dated 8 years with a house and pet together. He’s a “genius” with OCD and commitment issues. Every relationship milestone needed me to push hard.

My dad told me to just leave spontaneously. I’d have to move into my parents’ messy house though.

I want kids and a loving relationship. But I don’t think this guy is going to give me that. What do you think?

I (18F) have been with my boyfriend (19M) for 3 years. He worked since 14 through school jobs but didn’t finish high school because he failed his final exams and won’t retake them.

He believed previous jobs would help him get hired, but he had only 2 short jobs in the past year and spends days playing video games. My dad even offered him a job at his company, but he refuses because he doesn’t want to work with my dad.

I’m resentful because he doesn’t try hard. I don’t want him to get a job to spoil me—I want him to get his life in order. Should I stop nagging and let him figure it out alone?

I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months, and he often asks me for money—for gas, food, sometimes even for his brother. I’ve helped many times, but he never pays me back. He makes more money than I do and has fewer bills since he lives at home with his mom and a free car.

Recently, he offered to drive me to my first half marathon 45 minutes away, then asked me to pitch in for gas. I was upset because if he needed money, I would’ve just driven.

I’m stretched thin financially helping my parents and don’t want to be taken advantage of. Am I being selfish for feeling this way?

My boyfriend was fishing at our local pier when a girl approached and asked what he was up to. They talked for over an hour with others joining in. She asked if he had a girlfriend, and he said yes.

Later, he said they exchanged social media info and that he’d talk to her again. I felt weird because she asked if he had a girlfriend - it felt like she was hitting on him. I don’t mind my boyfriend being friendly, but sharing socials with a girl he just met feels disrespectful.

He says I have nothing to worry about—he’s not cheating—but I still feel uneasy. Am I overthinking?

I (20F) have been with my boyfriend (19M) for 14 months. Lately, I feel like I value him way more than he values me. He makes little efforts like acting annoyed when taking me home even though it’s just 5 minutes. If I’m upset, he tries to cheer me up by teasing me, like saying I have bad breath.

He rarely compliments me, and when I mention that, he says neither does he get compliments. Meanwhile, I always compliment him. He sometimes points out my flaws in front of friends or makes jokes at my expense.

He’s great in many other ways, but I feel like I’d do anything for him and don’t think he’d do the same. How do I tell him I feel undervalued without making him defensive?

I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (39M) for over a year and a half, and he moved in recently. We actually met at work.

His thing? He doesn’t talk about me to anyone except his dad and a few family members. He says he doesn’t think it's anyone's business who he sleeps with. I get that, but we live together and are building a life, so I want to feel more than just a secret.

I’ve noticed times at work when he could've mentioned me but didn’t. I brought it up, and he got upset, saying he doesn't want to announce having a girlfriend to everyone like he was giving a speech.

Is it normal to feel hurt by this? Or am I overreacting?

I hit the last straw last week. He went on a 24-hour no-contact "runaway" (aka partying) without telling me he wasn’t coming home or where he was. This isn’t new; he’d done it before

He goes out till after midnight several times a week and misses work due to hangovers a couple times a month. He’s trying to run his own business. We’ve talked about communication but nothing changed.

He thinks his drinking isn’t a problem. I feel like if you risk your job and relationship for uncontrolled “fun,” then it’s a problem. Am I the jerk for kicking him out? I love him, but I can’t handle the unpredictability.

Feels like teenage behavior at age 30.

Every night after work, my boyfriend eats, fills a shot glass, then starts playing video games. Meanwhile, I’m running around chasing our two kids and getting them ready for bed and school.

I asked him for help with bedtime. He told me to just ask next time instead of complaining. I get that, but… why not just help without being asked? Instead, he drinks and games away.

Now he’s upset I want help. Should I just ask every time or expect more initiative? I need advice.

My boyfriend (26M) asked me (22F) to make instant noodles: two packets, crushed up, flavor mixed in, no water drained. I broke the noodles into quarters, but didn’t smash them completely. He got angry the noodles weren’t crushed fully and dumped the whole thing into the sink right in front of me while I was cleaning. Then he went back to gaming.

Now I’m sitting here, second guessing my life choices.

I had a cervical procedure a week ago, and my doctor ordered me to rest and avoid any physical intimacy for 6 weeks.

My boyfriend is upset I’m not finding other ways to fulfill his physical needs during this time. He says he feels neglected and expects his girlfriend to want to do things for him - not treat it like a chore.

I want to be close and make him happy, but I thought he’d understand needing time to heal. He said if he were the one incapacitated, he’d try to make me happy anyway. It’s about genuine effort, not just a transaction.

I feel pressured and guilty for not meeting his needs just one week after surgery. Am I being unreasonable? How would you handle this?

I (27F) went to Portugal with my boyfriend (32M) around my birthday. We split flights and accommodation; I paid for visa, car, food, activities. No birthday gifts expected.

The day before my birthday, we visited a tourist spot with a cobbled slope. I have an injured foot and was moving slowly. A woman was taking a photo nearby. He rushed me down the slope so we wouldn't be in her shot, but she didn’t ask us to move and I don’t think we were in the photo.

I told him firmly, “Please don’t push me.” He said I embarrassed him and was inconsiderate.

The next day, birthday day, he didn’t wish me happy birthday on a 6-hour bus ride and instead talked about boring stuff. Later, he gave me a very cold “Happy birthday.”

On my birthday dinner, I took a few quick selfies since he’d said before he doesn’t like taking pictures. He got irritated waiting, then angry when I grabbed my jacket, and left without me.

Now he says I ruined my own birthday because he took me on this trip. My friends agree I should be grateful.

But I just wanted him to acknowledge my birthday and celebrate it with me. AITA?

I (30F) and my boyfriend (35M) have very different tastes in entertainment. He hates “girly” stuff like rom-coms and reality TV. That’s fine, we usually pick shows we both like, and I watch what I want when alone.

My friends and I are obsessed with a particular show that just released season 3. We decided to have weekly watch parties, usually at my place, with friends bringing food.

When I told my boyfriend about it, he asked if he could join. I said no because he hasn’t seen seasons 1 and 2, and when bored, he talks about unrelated things, ruining the fun.

He got mad, saying he wants to meet more of my friends. I told him these aren’t social hangouts - they’re focused on the show, like a movie night where you don’t talk. He gave me the cold shoulder.

The watch party is tomorrow, and it’s weekly. AITA for not inviting him?

Halloween’s my favorite holiday, and my boyfriend knows it. We’d dated online for 1.5 years and then moved in together. He was always flaky with plans and never tried hard.

This year, he insisted we spend Halloween together with candy, cookies, pumpkin painting, dinner, movies, and then I’d go to a rave I planned.

He tends to sleep all day or hide in his room. On Halloween, he slept late, took forever to get ready, then asked to go back to bed once in the car. I went shopping alone. Later, he napped through pumpkin painting and the whole day.

I went to the rave solo. Next day, I started decorating, and he said I shouldn’t make plans so we can spend Halloween together.

I said no - I’m doing my own thing after his repeated flaking. We fought, and now he’s sulking.

AITA?

My boyfriend moved in recently, and I noticed he never brushes his teeth before bed, only in the morning.

I told him it’s a bit gross since we kiss. He said he gets it but probably brushes less now.

At midnight, I asked when he last brushed his teeth. He said this morning and called me mean.

Am I the jerk for asking? Or is that just gross?

I (21F) and my boyfriend (22M), living together for 2 years, were cuddling this morning. He started squeezing my stomach, which I’m insecure about.

I told him no multiple times. When he kept going, I pushed his hands away and moved across the bed, even against the wall to get space. He kept trying to touch me, so I said, “Get away.”

He eventually stopped and later asked what was wrong. I said it was because he kept squeezing my stomach after I said no. He gave me a half-hearted sorry.

I feel hurt because he ignored me, but I wonder if I’m overreacting for pushing him away.

I (30F) have been with my boyfriend (33M) for 3.5 years. Since I started medical residency, he’s been making passive-aggressive remarks like “Must be nice” and calls me the “real alpha” because I’ll make more money.

I’m exhausted with school loans and just living life. He complains he has the same debt and can’t support me.

Now he’s thinking of applying to med school too, after turning down dental school last year because he felt it was settling.

I’m worn out by the ego battles. Is this even workable? Help!

I (30F) talked to my boyfriend (35M) about wanting more compliments and affirmations. He’s great overall, we’ve both healed from toxic pasts and communicate well. But lately, he’s been complimenting a female coworker more than me.

Once he complimented her earrings but never comments on my jewelry. I overheard him telling her, “What’re you doing tonight? Got some jean action going?” It felt flirty.

She laughs and touches his arm playfully; he touches her back. I feel insecure but crazy.

I’m cool with him complimenting others, really. But I wish he’d lift me up more and in front of coworkers.

Anyone dealt with this? How do I talk about it?

I (18F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for 3 months. A few months ago, he went silent for 40+ hours. I called and texted a lot. When he answered, he said he turned off his phone and apologized.

I told him I just want communication - not constant texts, but even a quick message.

He promised it wouldn’t happen again, but now it's been nearly 24 hours without a word. He said he’d text if he planned to go dark mode but hasn't.

Would I be an [jerk] for breaking up over this? I want boundaries respected and communication. Feeling lost and want advice from someone older with a fully formed brain!

My boyfriend (25M) and I (24F) have been together 5 years. He’s a firefighter with long shifts; I’m a student and worker.

Lately, his coworkers seem more important than me. He spends lots of time and energy with them but rarely plans dates just for us.

Last weekend, he wanted to invite coworkers and their girlfriends to a game I thought was our date. I told him I wanted more us-time. He got mad, then apologized.

Today, just after a 48-hour shift, he told me he’d attend a BBQ with former coworkers right when we planned to spend time.

He suggested I come over, hang alone for a couple hours, then stay or leave while he’s out. I declined - it didn’t feel fair.

He called me selfish and said I was punishing him. We argued and hung up.

I love him but feel like plans with me get tossed aside. AITA for refusing to come over?

My boyfriend and I share Instagram passwords, but I won’t give him my Snapchat password. I’ve had Snapchat for 4-5 years, and it’s my private cringe zone with family pics and goofy stuff I don’t want him scrolling through.

He had my password before and went too far - saving cringe pics and opening snaps from others. He analyzed everything I sent and replied. It was frustrating and felt invasive.

There are no random guys on my Snapchat, just friends and folks I know. I even offered to remove people to make him feel better, but I still want my space.

He says in a relationship there’s no personal space and couples should share passwords. Now, after I said no, he’s not talking to me, and I find it childish.

I want privacy, not secrets. Am I wrong?

I (21F) and my boyfriend (21M) have been together for a year. He suggested we work out at a park together instead of the gym. I thought it’d be fun.

He then said, “I want a partner who works out and is into fitness.” That hurt, because he'd never shared that before. I told him if he wanted that, he should’ve said before we started dating.

He got mad and said I’m overreacting and he didn’t mean it that way. He also said getting into fitness would only benefit me.

But the way he said it felt like a criticism. What do you think? Am I being too sensitive?

When we met earlier this year, I was 250 lbs at 5’9”. He knew what I looked like. After 3 months, he said he wasn’t as attracted and didn’t want to be intimate. We broke up but got back together.

After a while, he said he wanted to be with someone he felt attracted to and couldn’t stand by me while I lost weight. I stayed because I loved him and we were compatible outside the bedroom.

I’ve lost over 40 pounds and want to lose 20 more. He recently reached out saying he misses me and wants to try again. I’m torn between love and not wanting to be with someone who used my weight like a weapon.

What do I do?

Ran into his ex at the mall. He flipped, screamed at her about how she broke his heart and talked about new life with me.

She said she was glad we’re happy. He screamed more, saying he’s never going back, she’s just a memory.

I told him to stop stirring trouble. I’m pretty sure she’s moved on.

Now, I’m second guessing our relationship. He refuses to get therapy.

He’s been calling and texting, but I’m ignoring him, not sure what to do.

My boyfriend isn’t my son’s dad. My son is 3. A toy store had a competition to win Lego sets worth up to $1,500. You could enter a kid and list up to 10 sets.

He entered my son without asking me, checked the consent box, and wrote his own name.

Here’s the kicker: 5 of the 10 sets were for himself, not my son. They weren’t building sets for us - he wanted them for his own place.

He said he was trying to get close to the $1,500 prize limit and planned to enter my son into another contest listing only sets for him.

I’m angry because it uses a kid’s chance to get free stuff for himself. My son could have had 5 more sets listed.

Am I overreacting?

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (31M) for almost 3 years. It’s an intercultural relationship—I moved here, met him a year later.

He’s lived here all his life, so I learned the culture and language naturally, but he hasn’t made any effort to learn my culture.

I’ve told him many times, and he tried once by cooking a dish (which was sweet).

He’s great otherwise but I feel like I’m just a box he ticked - someone to graduate with or date.

He’s never really been curious about me. For example, he knows I have a private writing account he’s never asked to read.

I saw a post about a woman not having photos with her newborn because her boyfriend “forgot,” and it struck a nerve.

Dating again feels exhausting. I want a future family, and I feel time slipping.

Am I being too demanding or is it really too late for me?

My boyfriend (21M) and I (20F) have been together almost a year. I love him, but he has a spending problem.

He goes out with friends a lot but says he can’t pay for things with me because he has no money.

When I brought this up, he said I’m materialistic and made him feel like he’s not enough.

He agreed to cut back and pay me back for debts I helped him with.

He keeps getting my hopes up about activities then cancels last minute, like a concert I wanted to attend.

I’m not asking for fancy things, just surprise nights out or little thoughtful gestures.

Am I a brat for wanting this?

I (22F) have been dating my French boyfriend (26M) for 2 years. I speak French too and want to improve.

He constantly corrects my French, even in casual convos, which annoys me. I told him that in the US, minor mistakes are usually overlooked.

Yesterday, during dinner, he corrected me mid-sentence on a word almost every French learner knows, which upset me.

In English, I told him his is full of mistakes - ones I don’t correct. I said I don’t care about sounding native, just being understood.

He got quiet and later told me it was cruel because he worked hard learning English. I said I wanted him to feel how I feel when he interrupts.

Maybe I was too harsh? I do think his English is good, just wanted to get the point across.

AITA?